Love Law # 7 - Soul Mate
"Don't Get Stuck Thinking There's Only One Soul Mate for You in the Entire Solar System"
When you're in relationship limbo, it's easy to get hung up on the idea that there's only one guy out there for you. You convince yourself that the man your're dating might not be The One, maybe because he's not 6-feet, hot, rich, entrepreneur/surfer/Harvard grad you envisioned falling for. Or maybe he'll never compare with the one who got away - the perfec ex who, in hindsight, is so right for you. But by holding out for him, the elusive and idealized One, you're holding yourself back. Defining your one and only sould mate keeps you from getting serious with guys. You automatically bypass men who don't fit into that exact mold.
The problem starts when you convince yourself that he has to have certain qualities to be compatible. But if you keep an open mind in terms of who you might click with, you'll realize that a 5-foot-7, sweet, funny dude may not be the perfect guy, but he could be perfect for you. Soul mates aren't hatched. They don't pop up out of nowhere. They grow. You make a connection, build a relationship, and then you realize, "This is my soul mate."
When you're in relationship limbo, it's easy to get hung up on the idea that there's only one guy out there for you. You convince yourself that the man your're dating might not be The One, maybe because he's not 6-feet, hot, rich, entrepreneur/surfer/Harvard grad you envisioned falling for. Or maybe he'll never compare with the one who got away - the perfec ex who, in hindsight, is so right for you. But by holding out for him, the elusive and idealized One, you're holding yourself back. Defining your one and only sould mate keeps you from getting serious with guys. You automatically bypass men who don't fit into that exact mold.
The problem starts when you convince yourself that he has to have certain qualities to be compatible. But if you keep an open mind in terms of who you might click with, you'll realize that a 5-foot-7, sweet, funny dude may not be the perfect guy, but he could be perfect for you. Soul mates aren't hatched. They don't pop up out of nowhere. They grow. You make a connection, build a relationship, and then you realize, "This is my soul mate."
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There's this storey about this guy who spent his whole life looking for the perfect women. He gave up everything to find her. And eventually he did find her. The only problem was that she was looking for the perfect man...Rhoel.
There's an interesting theory concocted in the plot of a movie that you don't have a single soulmate, but rather, six. Yeah, six. That's like, half a dozen. I figure that's cool, because then you kind of have a few chances to get it wrong, ya know?
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